Comments on: The United Colors of Desi

By: Alex

Alex — Sat, 29 Aug 2009 02:13:35 +0000

It was great to hear the stories of all these people and their struggles and successes. I myself am White (born and raised in Europe) and dated an Indian guy for about a year and a half. Unfortunately we broke up a few months ago. Although race and my family’s unwillingness to accept him was not the only reason we broke up, it definitely played a big role. I felt a lot of pressure from my family to end the relationship (blood-pressure medication guilt trip and all) and although we didn’t openly talk about the issue often it was always in the back of our minds, mine especially. It is an unbearable task to have to choose between love and your family but I strongly urge all of you to fight for what you believe in and don’t give up if you truly love your partner. We’ve both been having a very hard time letting go of our relationship and the feelings are still there. But the reality is if there are conflicting thoughts in your mind the relationship will not go anywhere. You have to look deep inside and look at all the aspects of a relationship/marriage and life together before you can make a decision that you can stand by 100%.

By: FARHAT

FARHAT — Mon, 22 Jun 2009 04:59:59 +0000

shabana mir nice to see u

By: Blindian Network

Blindian Network — Fri, 13 Mar 2009 12:16:41 +0000

The inspiration for Blindian Network started in 2006 when my partner and I read a book called The Last Taboo by Bali Rai. The basis of the story was about a young British Asian girl named Simran who fell for Tyrone. But there was one big problem… Tyrone was black.

As a black Afro Caribbean male it never dawned on me that the relationship I was in with a British Asian woman could spark so much controversy with members of the Asian commuity.

Another obstacle to over come was that there was a huge lack of resources on the Internet for people in black and Asian interracial relationships.

So experiencing both the highs and lows of our personal choice to be together my partner and I created Blindian Network… an online community where people from both black and Asian cultures could not only share simular experiences with ourselves but with the rest of the world.

http://www.blindiannetwork.com/

By: dionne

dionne — Tue, 10 Feb 2009 00:55:22 +0000

Wonderful article. I’m a white American woman (Christian background) and my significant other is a Pakistani man (Muslim background). We are very happy together and very much in love! My family is a little more hesitant to accept our relationship than is his family.

By: Bluebonn

Bluebonn — Mon, 19 Jan 2009 14:47:24 +0000

Intercultural marriages are not always easy – especially if one of the spouses gives up their country, culture, family, friends, and career to move to a new country to start a new life. I did this a few years ago and have never regretted it – despite the difficuly.

I have a website that focuses on transplanted women who move under these circumstances. Please visit at http://www.hummingbirdhearts.net and pop by the forum – lots of advice and encouragement!

By: T W

T W — Tue, 11 Nov 2008 06:02:18 +0000

First off, thank you so much for this amazing article…its helped me a lot. I am a white catholic girl from the Midwest of the US and I am ridiculously in love with a East Indian Hindu man who is only here on a work visa. I am really afraid he is going to leave me if his parents ask him too even though he tells me he loves me. What should I do! Help!

By: T W

T W — Tue, 11 Nov 2008 06:01:49 +0000

First off, thank you so much for this amazing article…its helped me a lot. I am a white catholic girl from the Midwest of the US and I am ridiculously in love with a East Indian man who is only here on a work visa. I am really afraid he is going to leave me if his parents ask him too even though he tells me he loves me. What should I do! Help!

By: Allison

Allison — Sun, 19 Oct 2008 02:55:11 +0000

You guys must visit a place called Trinidad (southern Caribbean) or Guyana to see the high rate of marriages between Indians and Africans. Also there is a lot of inter-marrying between Asians and Indians or in some cases Africans. Take a look. What is new to you folks is old news in some parts of the world.
Check out these places.

By: Miss S

Miss S — Sat, 11 Oct 2008 00:01:46 +0000

Hi Everybody, We Have Decided We Are Definelty Going To Get Married, ~Love Is Stronger Than Pride~ As Sade Put In Her Song x x x x

By: Oreo

Oreo — Thu, 09 Oct 2008 18:51:17 +0000

These sort of articles are always amazing to me. I know people want to preserve their culture, but the blatant racism among parents is amazing sometimes. I know many desis can attest to the “BMW” rule for whom you can’t date (black, muslim white–in the order of worst being first). It’s ridiculous. My mother, who is clearly hot for Denzel would still be horrified if I showed up with him…insane!

I’ve only been in interracial relationships mainly because I grew up and live in America. I don’t even have that many Indian friends since they call me “white girl.” It seems to me that there’s more of a stigma with Asians than with white people. It’s only the Indians that hate on me for dating a “white” guy. I say that because the current guy I’m dating is a mutt. He looks white (or Lebanese to some people), but in fact only his father is white. His mother is Jamaican and Indian. He is more “Indian” than most Indian men I know, and that’s BEFORE he met me. Our families fully accept and love us both. However, when I mention to my mother that there will be full-blooded black people at our wedding she gets really nervous! I have to laugh because his black family is WAY more educated than half of my Indian family. Why are parents so unreasonable?!