Comments on: The United Colors of Desi http://niralimagazine.com/2007/06/the-united-colors-of-desi/ For the modern South Asian. Sat, 17 May 2008 10:42:55 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.0.4 by: R. Marie http://niralimagazine.com/2007/06/the-united-colors-of-desi/#comment-21769 Fri, 28 Mar 2008 20:03:36 +0000 http://niralimagazine.com/2007/06/the-united-colors-of-desi/#comment-21769 It was a delight to read this article. I am an African American woman in a committed relationship with a Pakistani-Indian man so it was very interesting to learn that among Asians, East Indian men are more likely to marry a black woman. The media portrays something a lot different...so that fact was quite surprising. It was a delight to read this article. I am an African American woman in a committed relationship with a Pakistani-Indian man so it was very interesting to learn that among Asians, East Indian men are more likely to marry a black woman. The media portrays something a lot different…so that fact was quite surprising.

]]> by: Savia Rajagopal http://niralimagazine.com/2007/06/the-united-colors-of-desi/#comment-21074 Mon, 10 Mar 2008 19:19:05 +0000 http://niralimagazine.com/2007/06/the-united-colors-of-desi/#comment-21074 Hi Priya This made such a fabulous read. Kudos for presenting such a sensitive issue so well. I landed here by mistake but you can be sure I'll be back here by choice :) I'm a fellow journalist from India, now settled in Canada. I'd like to get in touch. Do visit my website for contact info. Cheers Savia Hi Priya

This made such a fabulous read. Kudos for presenting such a sensitive issue so well. I landed here by mistake but you can be sure I’ll be back here by choice :)
I’m a fellow journalist from India, now settled in Canada. I’d like to get in touch. Do visit my website for contact info.

Cheers
Savia

]]> by: Priya Ramachandran http://niralimagazine.com/2007/06/the-united-colors-of-desi/#comment-20771 Mon, 03 Mar 2008 17:33:32 +0000 http://niralimagazine.com/2007/06/the-united-colors-of-desi/#comment-20771 Hello all and thanks for your feedback. It was great to read about your individual takes on inter-racial relationships. To clarify something commenter 13 raised - the desi-African American couple interviewed for the story didn't respond to our requests for photographs. It wasn't an intentional oversight. Hello all and thanks for your feedback. It was great to read about your individual takes on inter-racial relationships. To clarify something commenter 13 raised - the desi-African American couple interviewed for the story didn’t respond to our requests for photographs. It wasn’t an intentional oversight.

]]> by: Manish http://niralimagazine.com/2007/06/the-united-colors-of-desi/#comment-20160 Thu, 21 Feb 2008 15:57:55 +0000 http://niralimagazine.com/2007/06/the-united-colors-of-desi/#comment-20160 Interesting feature in the pictures..lighter the Indian he or she is married to a white. Darker the Indian, he or she is married to Chinese or other non-whites. Interesting feature in the pictures..lighter the Indian he or she is married to a white. Darker the Indian, he or she is married to Chinese or other non-whites.

]]> by: Raj http://niralimagazine.com/2007/06/the-united-colors-of-desi/#comment-19554 Mon, 11 Feb 2008 20:33:15 +0000 http://niralimagazine.com/2007/06/the-united-colors-of-desi/#comment-19554 About twenty five year ago, at a campus of a midwestern university, a Hindu light skinned-dark skinned Indian couple from Singapore was sitting in the mall during lunch hour. The woman, a Sindi looked like an American white woman with dark hair and her husband, a dark skinned Tamil almost looked African American. A preacher who was as usual giving his sermon in the mall that summer day in 1984. pointed to them and said that God looked down on such marriages. A few days later they started getting death threats and people were yelling insults at them on the street thinking they were a black-white couple. Their daughter was beaten up once. They left the US never to return again. A lot of things have changed since that time. But, some areas of the country dont change. If you are an Asian-white couple in places like Littleton, Colorado, you will have problems. About twenty five year ago, at a campus of a midwestern university, a Hindu light skinned-dark skinned Indian couple from Singapore was sitting in the mall during lunch hour. The woman, a Sindi looked like an American white woman with dark hair and her husband, a dark skinned Tamil almost looked African American. A preacher who was as usual giving his sermon in the mall that summer day in 1984. pointed to them and said that God looked down on such marriages. A few days later they started getting death threats and people were yelling insults at them on the street thinking they were a black-white couple. Their daughter was beaten up once. They left the US never to return again. A lot of things have changed since that time. But, some areas of the country dont change. If you are an Asian-white couple in places like Littleton, Colorado, you will have problems.

]]> by: CMP http://niralimagazine.com/2007/06/the-united-colors-of-desi/#comment-19298 Sat, 09 Feb 2008 03:19:43 +0000 http://niralimagazine.com/2007/06/the-united-colors-of-desi/#comment-19298 I am a white woman and I love my Desi man! Thank you so much for this article. I am a white woman and I love my Desi man! Thank you so much for this article.

]]> by: roger dodger http://niralimagazine.com/2007/06/the-united-colors-of-desi/#comment-17733 Fri, 18 Jan 2008 22:03:37 +0000 http://niralimagazine.com/2007/06/the-united-colors-of-desi/#comment-17733 well to be honest we know the truth, the only way to get ahead in this world is to marry someone outside your race. have you seen a power couple of indian origin in the states of the same indian background not yet. the truth of the matter is that these people knew there careers would get ahead and they also looked down on the own sex counterparts. i think it is a shame that we can't be happy to marry our own kind and at the same time not be disadvantaged careerwise and socially wise. i am sure if you really look at the matter you get ahead by marrying white when most of corporate culture is dominated by their kind. hell the fobs make it worse careerwise. they ante up the stakes at work and the indo americans start look like they were spoon fed all their lives. well i guess this is the conquer and divide. if you marry indian expect your future generations to end up in the ghetto. if you marry white expect your kids to marry another white person. did they mention anything about the dissolution of our religous heritage by marrying outside. of course oh yeah i remember you probably have great disdain as an indian with that as well. well to be honest we know the truth, the only way to get ahead in this world is to marry someone outside your race. have you seen a power couple of indian origin in the states of the same indian background not yet. the truth of the matter is that these people knew there careers would get ahead and they also looked down on the own sex counterparts. i think it is a shame that we can’t be happy to marry our own kind and at the same time not be disadvantaged careerwise and socially wise. i am sure if you really look at the matter you get ahead by marrying white when most of corporate culture is dominated by their kind. hell the fobs make it worse careerwise. they ante up the stakes at work and the indo americans start look like they were spoon fed all their lives. well i guess this is the conquer and divide. if you marry indian expect your future generations to end up in the ghetto. if you marry white expect your kids to marry another white person. did they mention anything about the dissolution of our religous heritage by marrying outside. of course oh yeah i remember you probably have great disdain as an indian with that as well.

]]> by: Lia http://niralimagazine.com/2007/06/the-united-colors-of-desi/#comment-17075 Tue, 08 Jan 2008 17:24:52 +0000 http://niralimagazine.com/2007/06/the-united-colors-of-desi/#comment-17075 For Alex and Maneka: Your story is a great inspiration to me. I am in a similar situation and would like to contact you personally if possible for advice or insight. Thank you. Lia anf516@gmail.com For Alex and Maneka:

Your story is a great inspiration to me. I am in a similar situation and would like to contact you personally if possible for advice or insight.

Thank you.
Lia

anf516@gmail.com

]]> by: SMughal http://niralimagazine.com/2007/06/the-united-colors-of-desi/#comment-15574 Tue, 18 Dec 2007 02:55:21 +0000 http://niralimagazine.com/2007/06/the-united-colors-of-desi/#comment-15574 I'm an African American woman married to a Pakistani man. We have been married for alomst 5 years now. At first I was very afraid to meet his parents, but he assured me that they were accepting and loving. When I fianlly met them, it was true, I felt very comfortable and welcomed by them. He had no problems with my family either and I knew he wouldn't. As for the stares, we get them occasionally, but that doen't bother us in the least. It's not as serious as people make it seem. Though i rarely find this kind of union, I love our relationship. I can think of no words to describe how much I love my husband and his race has nothing to do with that. i love him for the person he is. God made us all and I find it extremely difficult to understand how one can think he/she is better than another based on race, religion, nationality, etc. I guess it's not for me to understand. I see people as people and not what color they are. People here seem to be on the same page as me or else maybe you couldn't feel love for anyone of a different race. I'm just saying how I feel. This world will never be perfect because there are still too many people who don't know or believe that God made us all and we are all equals. I’m an African American woman married to a Pakistani man. We have been married for alomst 5 years now. At first I was very afraid to meet his parents, but he assured me that they were accepting and loving. When I fianlly met them, it was true, I felt very comfortable and welcomed by them. He had no problems with my family either and I knew he wouldn’t. As for the stares, we get them occasionally, but that doen’t bother us in the least. It’s not as serious as people make it seem. Though i rarely find this kind of union, I love our relationship. I can think of no words to describe how much I love my husband and his race has nothing to do with that. i love him for the person he is. God made us all and I find it extremely difficult to understand how one can think he/she is better than another based on race, religion, nationality, etc. I guess it’s not for me to understand. I see people as people and not what color they are. People here seem to be on the same page as me or else maybe you couldn’t feel love for anyone of a different race. I’m just saying how I feel. This world will never be perfect because there are still too many people who don’t know or believe that God made us all and we are all equals.

]]> by: Michael http://niralimagazine.com/2007/06/the-united-colors-of-desi/#comment-14550 Mon, 03 Dec 2007 05:20:32 +0000 http://niralimagazine.com/2007/06/the-united-colors-of-desi/#comment-14550 I am a white guy in a relationship with a pakistani girl. We get along so great and i love her more then anything in the world. I have fought my parents for her and they do like her the reason being when i told them why they couldn't belive how much i felt about her. However i have this problem her father, sister and brother are not accepting of us and tell her that it will never work out because my girlfriends family has said that it can't work. She is scared to be dishoned. Her parents don't want to meet me I am well off and well educated and treat her very well better then her sister who had an arranged marriage is treated by her husband. Since her parents are trying to hook her up with someone in pakistan we live in canada i know these things happen in indian families. This girl i want to marry!Should i introduce myself to her parents even though they don't want to see me I reallly want to meet them and would love to be a part of their family. I haven't met them yet or her family because they don't want to see me. i am a little stumped as to what i can do, she is caught in the middle and doesn't want to have her parents disown her we have discussed breaking up but i don't want it she knows it. She doesn't want it either but doesn't know how to deal with her parents who are not understanding. Can i get some advice or insight how i can handle this. Thanks. Michael I am a white guy in a relationship with a pakistani girl. We get along so great and i love her more then anything in the world.
I have fought my parents for her and they do like her the reason being when i told them why they couldn’t belive how much i felt about her. However i have this problem her father, sister and brother are not accepting of us and tell her that it will never work out because my girlfriends family has said that it can’t work. She is scared to be dishoned. Her parents don’t want to meet me I am well off and well educated and treat her very well better then her sister who had an arranged marriage is treated by her husband.
Since her parents are trying to hook her up with someone in pakistan we live in canada i know these things happen in indian families. This girl i want to marry!Should i introduce myself to her parents even though they don’t want to see me I reallly want to meet them and would love to be a part of their family. I haven’t met them yet or her family because they don’t want to see me.
i am a little stumped as to what i can do, she is caught in the middle and doesn’t want to have her parents disown her we have discussed breaking up but i don’t want it she knows it. She doesn’t want it either but doesn’t know how to deal with her parents who are not understanding.

Can i get some advice or insight how i can handle this.
Thanks.
Michael

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